Every Love Story Is Spotlight-Worthy
Over the past three and a half years of my writing journey, I've been fortunate to meet so many people in person and online. I've had so many wonderful women join me in celebrating real, genuine love stories. Along the way, I've come to realize that so many of us don't realize one thing: Every single one of our love stories is magical and novel-worthy.
That's not to say our relationships are perfect. Far from it. If you know my husband and me, you know we fight a lot. We are often caught in the grocery store in a heated battle about snacks or ribs or something equally as ridiculous. We struggle with adulting, and we sometimes have different visions for our lives.
Our life is also far from glamorous. Most weeks, we spend our evenings watching Netflix, playing video games, and eating the simplest foods we can microwave because we're just too lazy to cook anything. Date nights usually involve staying in or hanging with our mastiff, Henry. Candles, rose petals, and fancy getaways just aren't in the cards for us right now.
When I started writing love stories, I knew I wanted to see my own love story in the pages of books. I wanted to read about realistic couples who went on simple dates, who dealt with budget issues, and who didn't always have glamorous lifestyles. Sure, it's fun to read about the alphas who can whisk away their women to one-of-a-kind adventures. But for some of us, that's just not reality. I wanted to write love stories that showcase reality... and prove that love of all kinds can be beautiful.
Along the way, so many of you have joined in my vision and shared stories of your own journey to love. The thing I've come to learn is this: So many of us have similar love stories, similar experiences with married life, and similar struggles.
So while it can be easy to discount your own love story and fret about how it pales in comparison to the sexy heroines and heros of romance novels, I think the message is that you have to celebrate your own reality. You have to embrace the journey you are on when it comes to love, no matter what stage you are at.
Whether you're still searching for "the one" or you've found him or her, I think we all need to realize that every single love story is beautiful. It's worth celebrating. It isn't about the size of the ring, the glamour of the dates, or the perfect moments you collect. Sometimes what makes a love story magical are the struggles, the trials, and the fact that even when things are falling apart around you, one look from your person makes you feel like it's all going to be okay. It's about how you love each other even when you're both sweaty and your makeups melting from a broken air conditioner and 100 degree weather. The beauty of love happens in all of the little moments that don't make it onto the big screen in Hollywood--the simple dinners, the memories, the inside jokes, the play.
I am so glad you are all here to share in your journeys to love, no matter what that looks like. I'm so glad we have a place we can be candid about what love and marriage look like.
Most of all, I'm so thankful that I'm not alone in believing that all love stories are beautiful, noteworthy, and magical in their own way.
I hope this week you can think about the magic of your own journey to love, no matter what that looks like. I'd love to hear about your own love, too, so feel free to hit comment below or join the conversation on Facebook.
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Coming August 11th, the next installment in the popular Lines in the Sand series!
Book three in this romantic comedy follows Jodie and Levi back to Texas for the holidays. If you haven't read books one and two in the series, head over to Amazon and check them out. Book one, Inked Hearts, was named a Romance Times Top Pick upon release.
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Will a rowdy Texan Thanksgiving be too much for even this wild couple to handle?
Join hot cowboy Levi and quirky author Jodie this Thanksgiving in a fun short story of heat, cringe-worthy families, and dramas of the heart.
“You’re out of control,” I say as he leads me back to some cryptic place behind the rodeo. “And you love it,” he murmurs, turning to kiss me, his hands wandering, making me thankful in all sorts of ways for a very Texan and very scandalous Thanksgiving rodeo.
When Levi Creed, the sexy cowboy, takes Jodie Ellison home for a true Texan Thanksgiving, she has no idea what kind of rowdy holiday she’s in for. As Levi and Jodie’s families unite for one crazy dinner, Jodie uncovers Levi’s roots. Will the scorching Texas heat unite their already smoldering hearts, or will elements of Levi’s past prove to be too much for the new couple?
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Why Flynn's Sharp Objects is one of the best psychological thriller reads
Sharp Objects by Gillian Flynn
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
"Sometimes I think illness sits inside every woman, waiting for the right moment to bloom."
Sharp Objects is an engaging, intriguing thriller by Gillian Flynn. Although fans of Gone Girl may find this book to be a little tame and a bit more predictable, it is an excellent read due to the character development. Furthermore, it gives a deep, gritty look inside the mind of a character who struggles with mental issues.
When Camille Preaker goes home to Wind Gap to cover a story about two girls who are murdered, she is filled with an ominous sense of concern. This is mostly because of her mother, Adora, a woman who is both complex and poisonous in her own ways. The relationship between Camille and Adora has always been tense, but Camille's return to town only heightens the anger surrounding unresolved issues. When Adora's youngest daughter, Amma, is added to the mix, toxicity at its finest is unleashed. Camille's coverage of the story coupled with her family issues creates a masterful plot sure to intrigue every thriller reader.
I found the plot to be predictable in this book, but I was completely okay with that. This book isn't about the twists and turns; it is more about the character development. Flynn does an outstanding job at developing her characters, the family narrative, and the relationships in the book. As the plot is revealed, all of the backstory and family dynamics fit together like a puzzle, providing a satisfying narrative.
I also thought Flynn did a great job at portraying mental illness in the main character while also providing the reader with a clear understanding of why Camille struggles with the things she does. It was a raw, realistic, windy portrayal of the human mind, and I enjoyed the writing style that highlighted the realizations uncovered while reading.
I found the epilogue satisfying and thought Camille's story was wrapped up in a fulfilling way. There were many eerie, chilling aspects to the tale, which I found to be original and engaging. I also liked the focus on females in this book as it provided an interesting dynamic.
All in all, I recommend Sharp Objects to any psychological thriller fans. I am excited to check out the HBO series, Sharp Objects, to see if it holds up to the book.
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Here's How to Spark the Romance on a Budget
When you're young, you picture married life or dating life as an adult to be this magical whirlwind of an experience. There will be nightly surprises, red roses, enough candles to start a forest fire if you're not careful, and frequent trips to private islands.
And then you grow up and realize: So much of that just doesn't happen.
Adult life is hard and exhausting. Love as an adult isn't the thing the movies make it out to be. It's a daily struggle to battle the drudgery of adult life, beat exhaustion, and find enough energy to spend time together. And those private islands? Well, for most of our budgets, those are few and far between.
So how do you keep the spark alive when you can barely keep yourself alive some days? How do you keep the romance, the unexpected in your relationship when you're living a paycheck to paycheck kind of existence?
After being with my husband for 18 years and being married for a total of 7 of those years, I've discovered that it can be done. It just takes some effort, some creativity, and some willpower. Here are our 4 tips for keeping the spark alive in a relationship, even if you're on a budget.
1. Groupon has affordable date options
Recently, I realized Chad and I hadn't done anything new or special in a long time. Still, we were trying to save money, so a random weekend getaway wasn't really in the cards.
Enter Groupon. Especially when they have a sale, they have such great deals on local or semi-local adventures. I was able to get us a brewery tour for $26 total for the two of us. The brewery was a 2-hour drive, so close enough to not be too expensive or taxing but far enough away to be something new. We spent the day wandering around the quaint and adorable vineyard, Chad drank a lot of beer, and we just had a good time focusing on each other.
Groupon is a great place to find brand-new adventures that you've never done. It isn't always about what you're doing, either--sometimes it's just the fact that it's a new experience that can bring back the spark and the memories.
2. Think Local For New Adventures
You don't have to venture far to find new things to try. Is there a new restaurant in town you've been wanting to try? Or are there menu items that usually scare your predictable tastes at your local haunts? How about a new ice cream stand or a park nearby you've never been to?
If you look, there are probably places you've overlooked in your own hometown. Scope out newspapers for upcoming events that you can explore together, or venture into a new business.
One of our favorite dates was on a winter day when the whole town was shut down. We walked up to our favorite Chinese restaurant and saw a consignment shop we'd never been in. We've walked past it hundreds of times, but never took the time to stop by. We spent an hour browsing relics from the past and laughing about what we could buy. That will always be one of my favorite days because it was simple, spontaneous, and just about us being together.
Don't be afraid to search your own hometown for new experiences.
3. Stay Home for True Date Savings
You don't even have to leave the house to reignite the spark...and no, I'm not saying you have to whip out the lingerie for this one. Sometimes it's just about breaking the routine. Try a new recipe together from a different country. Do the shopping for the ingredients together, the meal prep, and of course, the eating, together.
Stay up later than normal and go stargazing on your back porch. A cheap bottle of wine, some stars, and some good conversation might just be the reconnect you need.
Do a no-tech night where you put away all technology and spend time together. Pull out an old school board game and start your own competition.
4. Remember What It's Really About
I'm a firm believer that extravagance does not equal love. Sometimes the best kind of dates, the ones that can re-spark our connections, are the simplest. Sure, it would be nice to be surprised with a trip to a private island. But when that's not possible, know that you can find ways to reignite the spark without spending a ton of cash.
You just have to remember what romance is really about... it's about having someone beside you in this crazy thing called life who makes you smile, who makes everything a little bit more fun, and who grounds you in the beauty of your reality.
It doesn't take loads of cash, candles, or roses to remind you of that. It just takes some creativity, some dedication, and most of all, time.
Do you have any great date ideas on a budget? How do you keep the spark alive? Post in the comments below. I would love to hear your ideas!
Honest Movie Review of A Quiet Place
Overall rating: 3/5 stars
A Quiet Place is a creature horror movie that follows a family as they try to survive in a post-apocalyptic world. The creatures hunt through sound and have super sensitive hearing; thus, the new world the characters must survive in is a silent world. One of the children in the family is deaf, creating an intriguing conflict in a world where hearing equates to survival.
Let me say that I wanted to love this movie so much. I was thrilled to see it on DVD since my husband and I didn't make it to theaters to see it. I sat down, drink in hand, ready to be wowed.
And I was wowed.... by the issues with this movie and major inconsistencies.
There are amazing things about this movie. The acting was phenomenal, and the cast worked well together. I adored the concept of a movie where there was little dialogue. To watch a horror movie that had to be visually exciting and stunning was a unique concept, one I enjoyed very much. I also loved the overall concept. Putting myself in the protagonists' shoes was intriguing; would I survive in this silent world? How much would my life change?
Also, the opening scenes are exciting, scary, and well-done. The conflict is immediately expressed as well as the family dynamic. I settled in and expected an intricate plot, exciting events, and thorough explanations of this new world.
However, the movie fell short for so many reasons. Below are some of my issues with the movie. Please feel free to disagree with me in the comments or tell me what you thought! I'd love to hear from you.
1. Inconsistencies with sound
One of the biggest issues with the sound inconsistency. The creatures could hear a raccoon scuttle across the field, but they couldn't hear heavy breathing of the main character when they were right next to her. Also, in this kind of world, wouldn't everyone die unless they never sneeze? The family is super quiet in certain moments, but then show everyday living in other scenes.
In addition, the one scene shows the family by the river and waterfall, talking about how it is a safe area because the noise from the water covers their own noise. Wouldn't it be smart to set up a base/home somewhere near the river or a similarly noisy area?
2. So many questions
I am okay with a movie leaving certain aspects up to interpretation, but this movie left way, way too many unanswered questions. Where did the creatures come from? How did this family survive when few others did? Why didn't scientists find out about the weakness uncovered at the end when they had newspapers full of other information?
There were other smaller questions, too--like where all that sand came from for the trails and how the main character managed to make an entire town of sand paths with just one bag for carrying.
3. Can we please be more careful?
For being one of the few families to survive, this family was reckless in their survival methods. Children were allowed to just roam the farm aimlessly and play outside. In a world this dangerous, wouldn't there be more precautions? In one scene, a boy plays in a truck outside, the horn precariously close to his small fingers. In addition, the family never closes doors. Ever. I think that may go back to the family trying to be quiet, but couldn't you take precautions to cover doors quietly or close them very carefully? At various points, creatures just slip into the house because no one shuts doors.
4. The ending
I know a lot of people like the twist ending, but I didn't really think it was that much of a wow factor. We all figured it out earlier in the movie when the daughter had several encounters with the creatures. I also hated how the movie just stopped....there needed to be more closure.
All in all, I had way to many questions about this movie to give it a high rating. I liked the concept, but there needed to be more answers and more attention paid to some of the inconsistencies.
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Best Dark Romance of the Summer: Pepper Winters The Girl and Her Ren
The Girl and Her Ren by Pepper Winters
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
I'm always hesitant about a sequel because I always worry it won't stand up to the first book. Pepper Winters' The Girl and Her Ren not only stood up to the first book but enhanced it. I loved book one even more thanks to this second book.
This book picks up where book one left off, and I was so happy to see the story continue because I was definitely left wanting more from book one. This series is so unique because it really does explore how love is multi-faceted and really doesn't care about rules. There is a constant back and forth to the plot and the emotions in book one; this continues in book two. I found myself weaving in and out of emotions, from anger to joy to sorrow and back again. Pepper Winters really makes you invest in the characters and their love story in a way few other authors can manage.
The formatting of the book is also unique in that it is told not only from the male and female perspective but also from the format of a manuscript. As a writer, I enjoyed that tie-in and loved how Pepper Winters tied up the series.
I really can't say anything negative about the series. I don't have any critiques. It wrapped up the series in a satisfying way, leaving an impression on me about Della and Ren like no other romance couple. I also love that in the book, Winters highlights that this was never intended to be a romance story, necessarily, but a life story. She accomplishes just that by showcasing how life is a winding, unpredictable journey of pain, sorrow, loss, regret, and guilt. However, through Ren and Della's story, she shows us that love always makes it worth it.
There is certainly a unique aspect to Ren and Della's love story. If you read book one, you understand that their history is very different. Some may even get a bit of a taboo vibe from their union. However, I thought Winters did a great job at acknowledging how their relationship is different but also at not backing down from the love story. Love doesn't follow the rules. It doesn't even follow our own rules. The heart wants what it wants, and it was satisfying to watch Ren and Della experience that very sentiment.
I applaud Pepper Winters for her candid writing, her unabashed look at some darker themes, and the ability to weave such a heartbreaking and beautiful tale about a couple I won't soon forget.
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Are you a thriller reader? Come join me on my new venture!
Have you heard the news? I have a new writing venture, and I'm so excited to tell you about it. I'm going to be dropping some huge publishing news soon, but for now, I'm answering questions about my venture into darkness...and into the thriller genre.
Why the thriller genre, and why now?
For me, writing has always been about telling the story that haunts me, that plagues me until it is told. For my first book, that story was Emma and Corbin's in Voice of Innocence. From there, so many couples and stories came to me, and I felt the need to tell those stories.
My first work in this darker genre wasn't something I consciously set out to do. It was a story that spoke to me, that haunted me, and that wouldn't let me go. In the next couple of months, you're going to learn all about this story and why it had such a powerful hold on me. I'll share with you how it came to be (which, true to Detwiler fashion, is a story in itself). And I'll tell you why this one meant so much to me that I was willing to go out on a limb in a completely different genre.
Certainly, I had my fears writing in a new genre. However, I've always encouraged my writing students at the high school to take risks, to go out on a limb, and to not be afraid to write something completely new. I finally decided to take my own advice when this story begged to be told.
And you know what? I found that I loved writing thriller. I found that I loved writing darker pieces. Most of all, I found that my goal with my romance writing fit in the thriller genre, perhaps even better: To show the realism in humanity, even if that realism isn't always pleasant.
My thrillers are about showcasing the dark realities of humanity. I want to underscore realism and the darkness that resides within everyone. I want to paint characters, scenarios, and scenes that ooze with depth and truth. Those are my goals in my thriller and, in actuality, in all of my writing.
I cannot wait to announce the title of my debut thriller and the amazing publishing company who is publishing it. Most of all, I can't wait for you to read my novel later this year and let me know what you think.
Do you have any questions for me? Leave them in the comments below. I'll be answering questions over the next few months. Also, be sure to join me on my new Facebook page to learn more about my thriller writing.
Honest review of the must-read "Night Circus"
The Night Circus by Erin Morgenstern
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
"The circus arrives without warning."
To review and explain the magnificence of this book is a difficult task. Morgenstern weaves a dreamlike tale of a dreamlike circus in such a fantastical way that it is almost impossible to put into words what the book is about, and, more significantly, what it actually means.
Essentially, this book is a romance about two people, Marco and Celia, who are fated to compete against each other in a competition of magical possibilities. Both illusionists are pitted against each other in a competition with few explanations, obtuse roles, and abstract concepts. For this reason, it is somewhat jarring for the reader to partake in this journey. This is a book where you never 100% understand what is happening.
I enjoyed the layers to the book and the different perspectives. There are many characters in this book, but Morgenstern weaves them together in exciting ways. Part of the attraction to this book is the fact that you never quite know whose story you are really reading. Who is actually important? What is the main purpose? Who is really going to rise as the central figure? There are so many swirls and whirls in the narrative that it begins to feel like the dreamlike circus she writes about.
The circus itself essentially becomes a character in this book. This circus is very different than the one you are probably imagining, however. It is a place where magic is real and the impossible really is possible. The illusions aren't really illusions, although the cover of night makes patrons of the circus understand that reality is perhaps the biggest illusion.
The narrative voice in this book does give it a bit of a distant feel from the reader at times. I have read critiques of this book where readers are not a fan because they couldn't connect. I can understand where that comes from. There are certain points where the narrative voice is second-person narration and you feel utterly connected. Then, there are parts where it is difficult to even understand what's going on or who is who, so it can be difficult to hang onto the connection.
I think the brilliance of this tale, though, is the fact that Morgenstern was able to create the dreamlike feel in which the reader can question what reality really means. I also loved the layering of tales and story lines. I cannot begin to imagine the process of coming up with this story and writing it. I think it is a testament to the creativity of Morgenstern and her writing skill that she pulled off this book.
I do wish the romance element had been more thoroughly established. I felt there was a disconnect between Marco and Celia at times, which is understandable but also frustrating. The love story could have been more clearly developed to provide more satisfaction to the reader.
The ending was superb. It was perfect and everything a reader could hope for in a book like this.
Overall, this is a unique read that is like nothing you've ever read. It will stand out in your mind for a long time after you're done reading. Most of all, it will make you realize that you should never be constrained by expectations or realities in your own life.
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When An Introvert and an Extrovert Fall in Love
From the moment we met, it hasn't been a secret: You're the extrovert, and I'm the introvert.
You're the outgoing guy with the gift of gab who tells stories that are way too long.... but make everyone laugh.
I'm the girl who would rather just listen, observe, and take it all in.
You're not afraid of new social situations, new people, and new adventures.
I'm the one who holds back, who is afraid to go out on a limb, who likes her small, core group of people. I'm the one who frets about social situations while you just go with the flow.
You're the loud to my quiet, the fun-loving to my rational. You're the party to my nerd, the funny to my serious. We are opposites in so many ways.
Yet, I'm so thankful that the introverted, shy girl at the art table found the courage to talk to the rebellious, chatty blond boy across from her. I'm so glad that we didn't let our differences get in the way because looking back, you changed me. You helped me. You made me better.
I know that love is a two-way street. We've both helped each other overcome our shortcomings and grow. We've both contributed to this life we've built together. But today is about how you made me who I am, how you helped me chase my dreams, and how your extroverted nature brought out the best in my introverted self.
You challenge me every single day to laugh a little more and worry a little less. I'm always in my head about what others think or if I'm making a good impression, but you remind me of what matters most. You show me that it's good to be true to yourself and to not be afraid to own that truth. You show me that life is about connections and learning about others and that you don't have to be afraid to do that.
You've pushed me outside of my comfort zone. When I was once a super shy girl afraid of really any interaction with others, you taught me to be confident and to find my outgoing side. It is because of your encouragement that I found enough courage to chase my true dreams of teaching and of being an author. Thanks to you, I've been able to embrace my introverted strengths and share them with others. I've found enough of a voice to project my ideas, my values, and my passions for others to hear.
It is with you by my side that I'm able to talk about my books and to even do a weekly podcast about our lives together. Your gift of gab helps make up for my shortcomings. You bail me out in situations you know I'm not comfortable. You push me to be outgoing when I need to be and you don't let me shy away from situations just because they scare me. You teach me to be brave, to be adventurous, and most of all, to have fun on this crazy journey called life.
In the past few years, I've come out of my shell and found a power in connecting with others. I've realized that it's okay to be extroverted sometimes, even as an introvert. You've helped me find balance.
Above all, you've helped me embrace my quirks and my fears. Your love for me shows me that I am not damaged or broken or less. Even though we're opposites in so many ways, we're the same in the important ways--in our love for each other that has carried us through so much, in our admiration for each other, and in our sense of fun we find together.
So to my extroverted husband, thank you. Thank you for pushing me to be a better version of myself. Thank you for helping me embrace who I am while challenging myself to grow, to change, and to morph into the person I've become. Thank you for being my voice when I can't, and thank you for helping me be my own voice when I can.
Marriage is about sacrifice and it's about learning. I am so glad I get to walk this journey with you, my opposite in so many ways but my soulmate all the same.
I love you.
Stitch Fix Unboxing & Try-On July 2018
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